People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called ‘fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.

Most people know about fight, flight, and freeze — but another trauma response, “fawn,” is at the core of what people-pleasing is actually about.

To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, people who “fawn” when triggered will go out of their way to mirror someone’s opinions and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues.

For me, this meant that the more invested I was in an emotional connection, the less likely I was to criticize that person, vocalize when my boundaries were crossed, express unhappiness with their behavior, or share anything that I felt might damage that relationship.

PEOPLE-PLEASING CAN BE A RESULT OF TRAUMA. IT’S CALLED ‘FAWNING’ — HERE’S HOW TO RECOGNIZE IT.